22 Women Who Inspired Me to Get My Lingerie in Order

Chardline Chanel- Faiteau "22 Women who Inspired Me to Get My Lingerie In Order" On the Plus Side

After doing the Wearable Lingerie Challenge with Alysse and Marcy, I discovered something about myself that was alarming to say this least: I am very uncomfortable with my sexiness.

Chardline Chanel- Faiteau "22 Women who Inspired Me to Get My Lingerie In Order" On the Plus Side

As my friends were cheering me on for my fashion freedom, I found myself covering up. At first, I thought it was because I was uncomfortable with applause or attention. But after two days of mulling over this experience, I came to the conclusion that I am uncomfortable with my own sexy.

Once upon a time, I wouldn’t date fat guys…as a fat woman. Strange,huh? I used to justify my reasons with sayings like, “Two fat people can’t have sex.” That all changed when a big man turned my world upside down, and he told me, “Is it possible that you feel uncomfortable dating a fat man because you are ashamed of your fatness?” Immediately, I said NO. But today, I can be real with myself. At that moment in my life, I was ashamed of myself–therefore I could never fathom seeing my partner in the same image.

Today, I acknowledge that I am a work in progress. Not every day is going to be a win for me. Many days, I have to understand why I shy away from certain clothing. Usually, I just use the excuse, “What would my job or mom think?” Albeit valid reasoning, it only perpetuates my irrationally rational fear of wearing sexy clothing and feeling sexy.  I always found it so strange that I could stand naked, in front of thousands of people, because I believe being naked is natural. I don’t sexualize body parts because I see them as in binary ways. But wearing something that is supposed to suggest sexiness is torture for me. I grew up internalizing that sexiness, and the ability to feel sexy was only reserved for Victoria Secret models. It looks like I have some work to do!

So to commemorate my uphill battle of discovering my sexy, I want to celebrate 22 women who unknowingly are helping me to get into my sexiest state of mind!

  1. @vanrubyroxx

  1. @ohwizeone

  1. @FlawsOfCouture

And some people have to get dragged in the process. 😕💙

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  1. @ReadyToStare

  1. @iamnatalialilly

  1. @QuirkyandCurvy

  1. @gabriellalascano

Amami , look by @rainbowshops

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  1. @__iveystyles__

  1. @Garnerstyle

  1. @glitterandlazers and @tatooedyogimama

This image has been taken down twice on @tattooedyogimama's page… What a way to wake up…. I don't often write about the times I'm weak or that I hurt, but I am in a rare situation where it's important. In Vegas I was treated differently in a few scenarios and I let it get to me. Nikki being an amazing friend, tried to empathize. I realized as much as she loved me she would never know exactly what it was like to go through some of these things daily. I try very hard to ignore them and be better than the road bocks people throw in my face, but sometimes they get me. The both of us broke down in this beautiful mess of tears and promised that even though we wouldnt always be able to understand each others struggles we would be there to support each other. So today it was sad to find an image where Nikki wrote about this very experience was taken down by instagram- twice- for being offensive. Because I was in it. Because I was in a bralette set. Never before has she had a photo removed- and Nikki has posed completely naked time and again. For the first time Nikki has understood what it's like to be discriminated in this way. This terrible judgement has brought us closer, and I only wish I had the opportunity to see into her struggles in the same way she has just caught a glimpse of mine. Perhaps that is the only good that can come of this example of hate- a deeper understanding and love between two friends. #bodypositive #selflove #friendship #hate #love

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  1. @curvesonabudget13

  1. @anitamarshall_

  1. @everythingcurvyandchic

  1. @Southernlindz

  1. @Rida

  1. @charisma_monroe

  1. @trienadenise and @modelmayi

  1. @thatgirlrae__

In a world that's tried to tell me who, what & how to be; the bravest thing I've done is become myself, love myself & respect myself in a way that makes me feel good 💃🏽 ➖➖➖➖➖ My journey of shedding 70 lbs has strengthened me in ways I never knew could and I know I'm not perfect- but I also know I'm worth it 💁🏽 I hope we all find the strength to do what's best for US and love ourselves through whatever process life takes us through 💪🏽 . . . . Here's an #unedited #sneakpeak of the lingerie shoot I had with: Photographer : @lisafleetphotography & MUA: @kittycmua 💖 . . #model #stretchmarks #effyourbeautystandards #healthycurves #IDoHerbalife #70lbsdown #curvemodel #naturalhair #raw #curls #hazeleyes #makeup #instafashion #plussize #nyc #bookme #bopo #bodydiversity #diversity #thesecurves #bombshellbellas

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  1. @gabifresh

From my latest blog post. Bra by @lanebryant 💋 #thefrankeffect

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  1. @erikalipps

  1. @TheCurvyFashionista

  1. @vanablack

 

Ladies, thanks for being so open with your works of art! For people like me, it’s hard for me to see myself in something sexy…but for others, it’s one of the best ways to celebrate your body! Maybe next year, I will produce my own boudoir shoot!

 

Til then,

Char.

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My name is Chardline Chanel-Faiteau and I am a blogger and style curator for plus-size fashion. Every single day, I am driven to be the best woman I can for myself, my community and for my readers. I have always had an interest in government, law and politics, but fashion was optional.

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About Chardline Chanel-Faiteau

My name is Chardline Chanel-Faiteau and I am a blogger and style curator for plus-size fashion. Every single day, I am driven to be the best woman I can for myself, my community and for my readers. I have always had an interest in government, law and politics, but fashion was optional. Click on Chardline's name or photo to read her extended bio!

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